For this week’s Lady Friday, we sought out truly expert advice this Valentine’s Day. With last year’s sexpert tips provided to us by Samantha X – former journalist who revealed in a tell-all book, Hooked: Secrets of a High Class Call Girl, that she changed career paths to become a high class escort – we knew her trusty advice was much needed, once again.
Sexpert Samantha X has given Rescu. her sizzling tactics for making Valentine’s Day a night to remember, and we mean really remember.
1. Cancel the restaurant
Sex on a tummy full of red wine and green curry mixed with garlic breath (and that’s you not him) has never been sexy in my eyes. I’ve got clients that insist of hanky panky BEFORE dinner as they know there’s no hope of anything after dinner except a bloated tummy and the odd fart. So cancel the booking at your local Thai (besides – dining out on Valentines day is a rip off and cliché) and instead, think outside the square. Your Valentine’s treat needs to start during the day. And please ladies, make NO MENTION of Valentines Day. It’s not sexy. Cuddly teddy bears, balloons, a single rose ….come on. You’re not 15.
Around 3pm, send him a text that simply reads: ‘You’re in big trouble.”
To which he will reply nervously: ‘What have I done now?’ …You say: ’I am feeling very horny and need to have your member in my mouth very, very soon..’
Trust me. This will have his dick double in size in seconds and unable to concentrate on anything else during the day except YOU. It will also get you in the mood. Power and anticipation is sometimes more of a turn on than sex itself. Sex is sex is sex but the build up if done right can add more to the experience than a bunch of flowers ever can.
2. TAKE CONTROL
Stop waiting for him to make all the moves and stop blaming him when he doesn’t live up to those expectations (they rarely do). You want a night of hot sex? You want to feel wanted, loved and desired? Then make it happen honey. Men are lazy, mostly clueless and think romance is having sex in front of the telly with the volume down. If they’ve bought you sexy lingerie – wear it. If they haven’t, buy it yourself. When was the last time you wore suspenders? I know they are a pain in the butt to put on – believe me I know. But the effect a simple small set of suspenders has on a man is quite incredible. Men are visual creatures. They see something sexy and they get excited. It’s February and hot outside, so don’t bother putting on the full lingerie set if you are going out, put them on in the bathroom when you get home. TIP: Stockings and suspender belts are fiddly and by the time you’ve put them on, he could well be asleep. So clip the stockings on before you put them on and simply slide into each stocking with the belt already attached. Slip on a high heel to elongate your legs and volia, you’re a sex kitten. Men typically don’t like red, pink or leopard skin lingerie. Go for basic black and white, and funnily enough, blue is always a popular request with my clients.
3. Men love Oral.
Yeah, yeah what’s the big shock there you’re thinking. Aha! It’s going down on YOU they love. I can’t tell you how many requests I get from clients wanting to book my escorts wanting to know if they may give her ‘pleasure down there.’ It is the most requested act, the thing they want the most, the thing they miss the most when they are a) single b) married for 20 years and their wife doesn’t let them do it anymore. So ladies please, relax and open..Stop worrying you smell down there, or you’re a bit stubbly or you don’t like the way your vagina feels or looks, just let them do it. The pleasure he (and you of course) will get if you truly relax will be sensational.
4. Find your voice.
Talk dirty! If you’ve never done it before, practice! It’s embarrassing to begin with – even escorts cringe at times, but if done right is sexy and hot. Some examples to try: “Do you like how wet you make me? Your member is so hard and throbbing…and so on. ***Of course only say this is you want to. If you want to create a romantic scene from The Notebook then talking dirty probably disrupts the mood somewhat.***
5. Get Ballsy.
Men love a blow job but something they might not have told you is that love having their balls licked and sucked gently. (gentle is the key word here) If you are feeling adventurous, and they are OK with it (I’m pretty sure they will be), inch closer and gently lick and stroke. If you are feeling even more daring, most men do love rimming (having their bottoms licked). It sounds gross but if they are clean and hygienic and it is something you are 100% comfortable with, then why not! He will return the favour. A lot of men aren’t brave enough to ask you to be rimmed, especially if they’ve been in the relationship for years, but it is something most of them enjoy.
6. The number one thing I stress with my escorts and women I mentor is that it’s YOUR BODY, YOUR CHOICE.
If something doesn’t feel right for you, if you don’t want to do it, if you are only doing it because you feel you have to, don’t. No one has the right to use your body without your permission. Sex is meant to be fun and pleasurable for both of you. Do not be afraid to say no and you never need to explain or justify. Empowerment is key. Go girl!
images via Samantha X
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